I have wondered that for so long now. First and foremost, I'm not an expert. I'm not claiming to be an expert of any kind. This is how I see things and convey my point of view to others.
This blog
gets a new post now and then because I am a writer who only writes when
inspired.
For this
blog post, it has taken me quite a lot of time to organize my thoughts enough
in my head to put them down on” paper.”
As always, please
read the disclaimer before you read anything in this blog.
I was in a
very abusive second-life relationship for about three years. So coming back to
the freedom and the sexual freedom is pretty new to me still, and it feels like
something has shifted to where people don't seem to have a fucking clue as to
how to have lustful passionate sex in second life, and it feels so strange to
me.
There are
all these people talking in the third person when having sexual
intercourse with another person. I mean, why? Why would you want to show your
emotions from a third-person perspective? That's just fake to me. It's utterly
fake to me. I have also met people who have said to me,” Second-life sex does
not do anything for me.” Well, no shit! If you take yourself out of the equation
and start typing in the third person, it won't do anything
for you!
I wish more
people would allow themselves to feel what others do to them. Writing
in the third person is like putting up a wall with big letters saying, “I'm just playing around.”
If you
allow yourself to feel, so many more people would have unique sexual
experiences in second life.
I have been saying this for so many years, and I will keep saying it: second life is a virtual reality; it's a reality on so many levels, so I don't understand why people choose to take themselves out of the equation when it comes to the sexual experience with another person or heck when it comes to anything that they do in second life. I don't understand why people refuse to feel something; just because second life exists within the computer on the Internet, it does not mean it's less of a reality.
I can
straight up tell you that I will never speak or do anything in the third
person if I have sex with somebody; we're having sex as if I was with
the person my first life because the only thing that is separating me
physically from that person is a computer everything else is real if you just let it, we are
together in our second life, Why
wouldn't I treat it as if there was no computer between us?
My second life is my life, just in another form. If I go over to my husband, whom I have in my first life, and start speaking to him in the third person, he would probably think I have gone completely crazy.
I refused
to treat my second life anything different than another life, so once again,
when I have sex with somebody, I truly ingenuously have sex with them. There's
no third-person talk, no third-person typing, no third-person anything. It's
just that person and me in the passionate, loving moment.
It's so
strange to me why people can't see this and see the potential of what second
life can give them if they allow themselves to feel something.
It's not
wrong to fall in love with somebody and have real feelings for them just
because a computer separates you. There is nothing wrong with the feelings
you would feel when you're with another person experiencing whatever you're
experiencing together, but so many people refuse to do this, and I think it's
just sad!
Even sadder
is that people seem to have relationships that are supposed to exist only in their
second lives. How the fuck Are you going to manage that? Your relationship with
another person doesn't stop just because you log out of your second life.
If I have
feelings for somebody, I have feelings for them, no matter where they are. The
feelings don't have an off switch or on switch, for that matter.
It's ridiculous
how people have twisted second life so much over the years.
Again, I'm
not saying I'm an expert, but this is how I see it. It's crazy how people
refuse to feel something just because it's a virtual reality.
I
might receive a lot of backlash from this, but I don't care.
Why are
people choosing to write a whole fucking Novel when they are having sex with
somebody? That's probably the most annoying thing ever because that person is removing
the other person from the equation, and the other person doesn't even have a
chance to respond or react. They are just typing a whole freaking story out,
and the other person can take it or leave it type thing.
I don't
want to be waiting for five or 10 minutes so that you can write a whole story
around us. It's not a story. It's fucking life!
I am an
author. I write erotic content for this blog. I don't want to have that in
my second life.
I'm gonna
quote one of my partners; he hit the nail on the head when he said, “Give
me bits and pieces and let me go from there.”
I recently
met someone who was typing a whole novel before sending it. I swear it
took him about 7 minutes. In the meantime, I'm sitting here thinking,
has he lost connection, or what is he doing?
I don't
know how many people know this from this blog or from any other of my blogs,
but I am a nymphomaniac. Being turned off even briefly is basically unheard of, but I was so turned off by this dude that I had
to tell him to stop.
He even
told me that I probably was demisexual, which I just laughed my ass off at
In the
meantime, he told me that he doesn't do vanilla; I'm trying to say to him that it
had nothing to do with those things but the fact that I didn't have time to
react to anything he was doing because he had already written out my responses.
Then he
gives me the biggest jaw drop. He suddenly tells me that he knows about my
condition and that I use a wheelchair. By this point, I'm talking to
myself in my first life, going, “THAT! Has nothing to do with it whatsoever”!
I felt desexualized when he said that, just like before I met my first life
husband.”
So yeah, if
you want to know, what turns me off is people who ride a whole novel when
having a sexual experience with somebody else and people who take themselves
out of the equation, meaning typing in the third person because they don't
want to feel anything.
A sexual
experience for me involves the actions of two people (sometimes even three
people, haha)
It involves
touching them or them touching me as if I was there, basically with them kissing,
stroking, licking, fucking, looking into each other's eyes, reading each
other's body language, and each other's reactions. If I don't feel that, I
don't want it. Yes, I am a nymphomaniac, but that's not all I am. I'm a woman, first and foremost. If I don't feel the connection? There's nothing there for
me. That's how I am, and that's how I've always been.
Turn me on
like you would do if I was physically there without a computer
Fuck me
like you would do as if I was there without the computer
Touch me Like
you would do if I were there without the computer
kiss me like
you would do if I were there without the computer
Grab me
like you would do if I were there without the computer.
Do you see
where I'm going with this? If you remove the computer from the equation, the
computer does not exist.
If you have
never tried this, try it, and I promise you you'll never go back. Allow
yourself to feel something, and let second life benefit you. I promise
you that you will never return once you see how beneficial second life can be
to you mentally and physically.
I'm
going to get questions on this, so I'm just going straight out and saying it: No,
I don't role-play because I'm just me 100%. I don't fake it, I don't talk in the
third person, I don't do anything like that because it would mean that I would
be faking myself, and I'm never gonna do that, never, ever.
/Tessa
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